Why is forgiveness so important to us? This is something I've been learning on my own journey and so I wanted to share my experience of this with you today. I believe it to be something we have to be regularly aware of before the effects of holding on to something can adversely affect us in both our mind and body health.
I have found forgiveness to be something of a connection between two people that even if no one says anything both are helped in some way. Its a process of letting go and enabling both ourselves and the other person to move on.
Without forgiveness we can remain stuck and even though the original event may be far in the past, a part of our heart still remains there. This means that for us we are unable to move forward and begin anew in each day in whatever we do and the relationships we have.
Forgiving someone doesn't mean we have to allow the person to hurt us again or that what they did was okay, it just means that we are allowing them and ourselves to move on. No person is perfect and yes some acts are extremely bad, but holding on to anger only hurts the individual holding it. As the famous quote states;
Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
It really is only us that gets hurt from holding onto bitterness and pain. Sometimes it can take someone else to make us aware of how we are holding on to something. Or we may become aware of it when we bring it in to a new relationship, but each time we hold on to something it is like closing off a part of ourselves. In forgiving we accept the imperfectness of others and so do the same for ourselves too.
Forgiveness is the way to open up more, and the bigger the forgiveness the more open and connected we can become. Sometimes we can hold on to even the small insignificant things that are meaningless in the whole scheme of life, like someone being rude to us in the supermarket for example, but who does it help to hold on to this?
Mostly all it takes is for us to understand where someone is coming from, to see what their perception may have been at the time. By doing this we are stepping out of our small self and extending compassion from our higher self instead. Once we let go, we set ourselves free from further unnecessary pain and open our hearts to connect more in the future.
Its important to remember that we are all connected and in holding on to resentment it carries a negative energy that hurts both ourselves and others around us even if its not directly about them. Often we can hold anger or resentment towards one person and take it out on somebody else unintentionally. By choosing to forgive we just let go and the situation no longer has any power over us.
Forgiveness is not about suppression of emotions but more about just letting them go and loving yourself. Actually expressing emotions through some healthy form such as arts, meditation or talking is helpful in this process. Give yourself the blessing of taking time to let go.
Everyone has a reason for doing the things they do and even if we can't understand it, we can learn to accept it. This can either take us years or we can choose to do it in the moment. By doing so it does not make you a martyr and you don't have accept the same in terms of treatment but you can set yourself free and move forward to have deeper and more meaningful relationships in the future.
This is all part of the journey were on and most importantly we have to be at our best so we can be there for others too. Looking after your own health and happiness has to come first and letting go is very beneficial in this.
Below is a useful meditation you can try if forgiveness is an area you wish to work on.Thank you for reading today. Please also share any of your own comments and experiences below, it would be great to hear from you. thank you <3